You know, what I'd love most in the world is to experience love and to be in a loving relationship. I've never had that, and I dunno - this makes me feel a bit unfulfilled.
I just seem to fall in love with people who seem unable to reciprocate (or reciprocate seriously). Am I to go throughout my whole life having to endure this vicious repetitive cycle? I either fall in love with people who seem unable to reciprocate or I have suitors whom I am unable to love. Both situations are as bad as each other for different reasons.
My brain sometimes hurts with frustration. Why am I ALWAYS on my own when other people settle down so easily?
This is not to say I haven't ever been in a relationship. I have a son from one such relationship which I would have loved to have worked, but I had my heart broken instead, and since then I guess that's been it.
People are always telling me what a 'lovely person' I am, and how surprised they are that I'm on my own. But then .... regardless of the surprise, that's it. I always seem to be left on the side.
It's like this. Remember team events at school? You had two kids as team captain and they had to pick from the rest of the class who they wanted for their team? There were always the same few kids that would be picked last. Be under no illusion. Those kids KNEW they were going to be picked last because it would ALWAYS happen. They put a brave face on it, maybe even turning it into a joke, but deep down, they're rejected and it breaks their heart. You know?
Well that's how I feel. Always left till last. The one you'd go for if there wasn't anyone better. Or the one you'd have a half-hearted interest in until a better replacement came along, leading them along, making them THINK they are actually important to you. That makes me a bit sad.
Actually .... well, I just spend my time trying to act like I'm not bothered. "I don't need no-one!" I say. Then come the inevitable questions "But don't you get lonely?" You know my direct response to this will be "No, Of COURSE not, I'm not interested. "
I wish I could put the way I feel right now down to PMS or something. But ... I'm not going to use PMS as an excuse everytime I have to confront feelings I try to keep surpressed.
My life's ambition isn't about climbing the career ladder and making millions. For me, it's just about finding someone to love, and to be equally as loved by that someone. But it's as though whatever you want most in life is one thing thats the most difficult to attain.
I'm easy going, relaxed, sometimes a bit impulsive, I like deep talks and discussions, I like to envisage the impossible ... I also like to go for walks to nowhere in the sunshine, I like to dance, I like to laugh, I like to share, I like to love and be loved. Why is that so awful? I'm not asking for diamond rings, or rich husbands. I'm not asking for Mr Tough Guy. I'm not asking for the hunk of the Year. I just want someone who I can share love with. So what's so bad about that? Why has it not been for me? Why has it escaped me when others seem to find it so easily?
I'm not usually like this. These thoughts are the ones that usually get swept under the carpet. You know?
But today I'm feeling particularly low because I have been side-lined by someone I had a lot of feelings for. I thought we had a real connection, we were goods friends and even became lovers; I felt very positive, I was really happy - you know. For a while I almost dared to believe that this was IT!! But it seems it wasn't to be, he's just sort of moved on with the classic "It's not you it's me" line ... as an explanation.
So ... here's looking to the future. Now that I've gotten all of that off my chest I'm sure something will happen when I least expect it. But right now I guess I have to try and work at getting through this heartache.
Hello , welcome here ; interesting . .
Do you think that you have 'low self esteem' which makes you think that , if anyone wants to go out with you , there must be something wrong with them ?
I can completely identify with just wanting someone to love and be loved by , and not seeking or expecting anyone to be perfect , just a decent , okay person who can be devoted to you , and you to them . .
I tend to think that it's very easy for almost any not unattractive woman aged at least under 55 to find men who are interested in her , so she can take her pick , and I wonder if you're either consciously or unconsciously putting barriers in the way of what you say that you long for , but , what would I know , and , sorry if I'm seeming to be trying to be too iritatingly clever , like such people who you wrote about in your previous post , all good wishes , ~ Martin .